Here are some opinions of readers: "This is a fairy tale that in order for the prince to pay attention to you and fall in love, you must have the best in the kingdom of dress." "This is a statement of the Christian idea that we must endure, work diligently, and you will be rewarded." "This is a fairy tale that mesalliance is possible." "To escape from poverty and hopelessness, you must successfully get married." “It doesn’t matter who you are or what you are, it’s important to meet the Prince and fall in love with him” ...
In a fairy tale, as in any metaphorical work, the understatement and freedom of interpretation is achieved due to the fact that some important points are omitted, which every reader or listener must discover and conjecture for himself. Only a few succeeded, and they got fame and fortune. Why is it that the tale does not directly say anything about these connecting elements of achieving happiness, fortune, wealth, power and love, but put on some kind of allegorical form? Yes, probably because they are a product of time, and for each epoch they are their own, and everyone needs to find them. Tale excites the imagination, and a strong personality makes you think and find your way to achieving your dream. Thanks to the fairy tale, the idea that happiness is possible already sits in the minds of readers.
What is the secret of how to be in the right place at the right time, being in the right external and internal form?
Based on the tale of Charles Perrault (1697), many works were written. Of course, the cinema, in one form or another, played up the theme of how a man (“Overboard”) or a woman (“Pretty Woman”) found their love and at the same time successfully solved their material problems. But again and again all such stories were related to the category of exceptional cases rather than to the rule.
Nevertheless, there was still a man who, 216 years after the fairy tale came out, revealed to the whole world one of the possible ways to resolve her secret, namely, how to turn from Cinderella into a princess. This is the English writer Bernard Shaw. In his play “Pygmalion”, and she is known to many by musical or film - “My Fair Lady”, based on this play, he convincingly demonstrated:
- that you can do without fairies and magic, if you want to work on yourself;
- that in order to achieve happiness, it is not at all necessary to have a beautiful outer package or some exclusive accessories, such as the most beautiful outfit or crystal slippers;
- that for a miraculous transformation it is only necessary to be able to communicate correctly;
- that without the ability to communicate any beautiful outfits only emphasize the poverty of the one who craves for success, happiness and wealth.
The best confirmation of the correctness of its discovery was the fact that scientists seriously took up the study of the phenomenon of communication. Nearly 25 years after the appearance of the play, Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Make Friends and Influence People, is published, dedicated to the same topic - the art of communication. Around the same time, the American scientist Milton Erickson makes his fantastic discoveries. It was his scientific work, along with the work of other scientists, formed in the mid-70s the basis for a new direction in applied psychology: neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), which, after a few more years, allowed the process of turning “Cinderellas” into “princesses” »Put on the conveyor. Indeed, although “there are not enough princes, and there are not enough of them all,” it turned out, however, that you can create your own well-being with your own hands.
In the modern world, every manager, every graduate of the school who dreams of living decently, should already possess effective communication techniques. Now, for a successful business or personal career, it is important not so much the caste origin as the ability to correctly listen, convince, make business and friendly relations, that is, the ability to communicate.
Centuries have passed since the fairy tale was released, but two groups of erroneous conclusions are still being made:
- supposedly the keys to achieving happiness are in the outside world, but not inside the person;
- ostensibly, in order to become happy, you first need to suffer for a long time, to endure, to suffer, and then, perhaps, will be rewarded.
Let's return to the Cinderella fairy tale. Remember, it begins with the fact that "there was a widower." When reading a fairy tale to your children, draw their attention to the fact that Cinderella's mother taught her high-class manners, the ability to speak and communicate in the manner that is customary at the court of the king. Then it will become clear to your child why no one in the palace recognized a jolly imposter in it, which fastened on a luxurious dress. It is possible that the stepmother’s daughters were fabulously beautiful, and the prince danced with both, but he easily recognized that their manners were deceitful and they try to pretend not to be who they are, so he immediately forgot about them.
Note the child on two things:
1. The goal of Cinderella was not to fall in love with the prince or anyone else, but just to get to the ball and, if possible, dance. Her goal did not include manipulating another person.
2. It is important beand not seem. Remember the film “My Fair Lady” - Eliza Doolittle wore a beautiful dress while going to the hippodrome, but shocked the high society of London with her vocabulary and communication manners. It is important to be a lady, and not to appear as her, then even the absence of beautiful dresses will not be able to hide the nobility of the soul and its exclusivity.