How to learn to like yourself? Answer the questions…

First of all, determine the degree of reality of your self-esteem. You can do it yourself. It is necessary to honestly answer yourself the following questions:

Were you a welcome child, as far as you know?
What idea of ​​yourself, as you recall, inspired you in childhood?
What was your opinion about yourself in your childhood?
How did the people around you treat you as a child?
What happens to you physically now when you are nervous? How did you feel this in your childhood?
How do difficulties and problems affect your appetite? How often have you been soothed with treats as a child?
Do you have a good idea of ​​your postures and gestures when you react to something?
Do you know how others think about your postures and gestures?
Do you often show others that you suffer? Do you prefer to look happy person or unhappy and helpless?
Are you a winner or a loser? When did you come to this conclusion? What event prompted you to this assessment?

By answering yourself extremely honestly to these questions, you can probably understand if you have a negative assessment of yourself and your appearance in your childhood? And how long has it happened?

Having come to the conclusion that such a negative assessment has developed, it is necessary to begin to change your thoughts about yourself in a positive direction. That is, literally forcing myself to think of myself is only good: “I am very beautiful, I have a great figure, expressive eyes ...” and so on. After all, you can always find something good in yourself. In this case, it is important to find only the good in yourself.

And as soon as you manage to perceive positively your present appearance, a gradual, slow, but sure elimination of your bodily defects will begin. In any case, very soon they will stop bothering you and worrying, then you will stop noticing them, and if you persist and persevere on this path, then your body will sooner or later react to the best physical changes.

This method certainly requires a lot of patience and faith, but in any case it is unlikely to be able to harm someone. In addition, it is safer and cheaper than plastic surgery in all respects. We must not forget that we are, first of all, what we think of ourselves.

In addition, before undertaking any surgical interventions, consult with close people, with a loved one, with a psychologist. Listen to the compliments of other people, to the advice of their friends. If possible, take a picture, shoot yourself on a video camera and watch your gait, movements and facial expressions. Try to look at yourself through the eyes of those who love you.

And if you decide that you need a change in appearance, then start with your image. Try to play different roles, changing the style of clothing and cosmetics. Imagine yourself as an actor who is reincarnated into different images. Find your own unique style. See how others respond to it. And if you and those around you like it, then stay the way you are now.

If you are now 14–18 years old, then try to understand that negative thoughts about your own body are due, above all, to your distorted perception at the moment. The body is formed, the hormonal background is changing, your body is trying very hard so that you can turn into a beautiful swan out of the “ugly duckling”. Thank him for it instead of criticizing. No wonder this age is called transitional. Have patience, think about yourself only well, and everything will be formed by itself without painful and traumatic body and soul surgeries.

By the way, no self-respecting doctor will undertake plastic or any other cosmetic surgery until the end of adolescence (adolescence). Cosmetic operations are recommended to be performed only by adults when the growth of bones and tissues is fully completed. These terms are quite individual, but, in any case, it is an age older than 20 years.

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